All too many men today have had to mentor themselves into manhood. As a result, a tainted masculine culture has evolved which glorifies a man’s aggressive, competitive and controlling nature. Bolstered by social media culture, it perpetuates the myth of the “self-made man” compelling men to lead lives of isolation, void of deep, meaningful intimate relationships.
Masculinity’s tainted transmitted values instruct men to:
- Believe that a man needs to be strong, powerful, athletic or have a special skill set to stand out or be someone worth loving.
- Believe that men are to repress any or most emotional expression, that except for rare occasions like a friend’s funeral never let them see you cry
- Believe that sex is a conquest to be pursued and to use the frequency of sex as the measure of being loved.
- Believe that men are suppose to measure their self-worth by his net-worth, his wallet, his work, or his wheels.
The result creates a tainted masculine culture that teaches men to compare and compete with other men. A culture that discourages and distracts men from having any deep, meaningful relationship with other men or mentors.
But we can change this, remove the tainted, toxic, and restore a healthy masculine culture. It won’t be easy and cannot be done alone. It will require even more of all men, but worth every effort. Restoring a healthy masculine culture benefits you, your family, you community and your country. Let it begin with me. How about you?
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