Mindful Manhood Minute: Difference


Difference: a characteristic that distinguishes one from another or from the average, an instance of being distinct in nature, form, or quality.

A common question I hear today is, “Can one person truly make a difference in the world today?” Great question.  How would you answer that?  Do you believe that you are living a life that makes a difference?  If so, how are you making a difference, I’d love to hear from you.

If not, what do you believe it takes to make a difference in someone’s life?  What would they want or need to make a difference in their lives?  More money, a better job, nicer house or neighborhood, perhaps newer car, warmer climate, or better leaders, the list could go on and on.  What would be on your list?

Years ago, when my life was about to “crash and burn” again, God brought a counselor named John into my life.  John met me at my point of pain, revealed the darkness and doubt that had always haunted my heart and pointed me in a truly different direction.  He introduced me to Barry, who became my mentor, role model, friend and family.  Barry taught me how to listen, learn, love, laugh and live life depending upon God alone, as one of his beloved sons.  If it weren’t for these two men, you would have never heard of me, nor would you be reading this blog.

Since then, I’ve learned that money, houses, cars, fame, and fortune doesn’t make the top ten list of things that make a difference in people’s lives.  What I’ve gleaned that truly makes a difference in people’s lives is:

  1. To know that they are known and truly loved by one person.
  2. To believe in themselves again, perhaps for the first time and that their life matters
  3. To restore the relationship with family and friends
  4. To be able to forgive themselves for their past guilt and failures.
  5. To have peace of mind
  6. To have and belong to a community of family and friends.
  7. To not grow old and die alone.
  8. To know true joy and be able to share that with loved ones.
  9. To encourage their children and grandchildren to follow their dreams.
  10. To live a life that brings honor and glory to God the Father.

These are the top 10 yearnings of the heart that I’ve heard from countless men and women.  Having just one or two of these come true would make a world of difference in their lives.

So, can one person make a difference?  More intimately, can your life make a difference? Yes, because what makes a difference in people’s lives is real, healthy relationships.   Not money, not houses, cars, careers, or fame.

To make a difference in someone’s life means to intentionally invest into that relationship, making them top priority with your time, your attention, and in your heart.  This is what always has and always will make a difference in the world.  Relationship.

29 “The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.   30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’  31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’   There is no commandment greater than these.”  Mark 12:29-31

I hope today’s blog has encouraged you.  Make sure you sign up to receive blogs posted every Tuesday and Thursday. TransformingFamilies.org resources are designed to guide you through the restoration process of developing your heart, mind, and strength, enabling you to become the man God created you to be.

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2 comments on “Mindful Manhood Minute: Difference

  1. Barry Noll

    Being available and loving people as God loves me.

    • Randell Turner

      Thank you for letting God’s light and love shine through you and Nancy. Love ya!

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