Mindful Minute: Consistency

Consistency is a critical foundational virtue of any relationship.  An excellent example is consistency of character.  Unless a man or woman consistently demonstrates a firmness of character through their daily words and actions, they develop a reputation for being unpredictable and unapproachable.

Consistency can only be measured from a below-the-waterline perspective.  We all make mistakes; we all have faults and have failed at least once.  That’s the tip of the iceberg today, which will be slightly different tomorrow.

Consistency is the unseen support that remains steadfast despite today’s difficulties.  That’s why Winston Churchill approved the research to use icebergs as mobile airfields at the beginning of WWII.  Churchill recognized that icebergs have a massive foundation below the waterline that they could withstand anything the enemy fired at them.

Our Heavenly Father understands how vital consistency is to our relationships when he assured us in Hebrews 8:5-8
God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”  So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?”  Remember your leaders, who spoke the word of God to you. Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith.   Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today, and forever.

The SAME, yesterday, today, and forever.  Consistency or lack thereof will make or break a relationship, so make every effort to consistently;

  • Say what you mean and mean what you say,
  • Under promise and over deliver,
  • Spend time in His Word and His presence through prayer
  • Prioritize your family second only to God the Father
  • Fellowship with the Family of God and a fellowship of healthy Godly men.
  • Continue to be a life-long learner,

Being a man or woman who consistently lives a life like this will be “Salt and Light” (Matthew 5:13-16) in your home, neighborhood, and community.  That’s a life worth living and a legacy worth leaving.


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Recommended reading:

Loving Through Conflict

By Ash Narayan

Politics, social justice, the COVID-19 pandemic, church ministry, and marriages are just a small sample of the   myriad of issues causing division across the world today. Never before are Christians more divided on these issues and others. In addition, an emerging trend that has created tension and division among Christians is centered on ideology. Christianity’s fundamental beliefs and truths are no longer commonly accepted. Movements such as social justice and moral relativism dominate academia and the teaching and culture of the younger generation. These progressive movements are the cause of substantial conflict among Christians who steadfastly proclaim their love for the same God. While conflicts are inevitable and have existed since the Fall, what is troubling is how Christians are managing conflicts.

Conflicts, if left unresolved, rob us of the joy that healthy relationships bring. While conflict resolution is a laudable goal, many conflicts will be left unresolved. Accordingly, we need to address a different reality. As Christians, we need to learn to live well with each other in and through our conflicts. Jesus modeled essential principles such as compassion, kindness, empathy, humility, gentleness, and patience, all of which help us face conflict.

More importantly, Jesus is the conduit of God’s overflowing love. Love is relationship glue. When Christians love each other well with commitment and perseverance, they can avoid many of the conflicts illustrated. When any relationship experiences conflict, love can preserve, redefine, and strengthen the relationship, even if the underlying issue that caused the conflict is not resolved. God is all about relationships and wants to teach you how to be Loving Through Conflict.

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