During my 25 plus years as a therapist and life coach, I’ve heard thousands of reasons why men started using porn. “It feels good.” It helps me relax.”, What’s the harm, it’s not like I’m cheating.”, “It’s free, easy to access and no one is getting hurt”, or “I like it”.
Whatever your reasons in the beginning for using porn, has it brought you any lasting satisfaction? Or has it created a craving that feels like it can never be calmed?
That’s part of porn’s lure. It provides anything you can imagine, other types of porn you never imagined, and the potential promise of even more pleasures at just the click of a mouse. Unfortunately this too becomes unsatisfying and you move on to the next level, more intense and often more violent. Because what stimulated you in the beginning now seems boring and passé.
Now it’s even harder to become sexually aroused with your wife or partner. Which often leads to fantasizing about port while have sex with her, thereby diminishing the quality and closeness within your real life relationship.
This is how porn’s promise of pleasure, masks how it poisons your relationship. Slowly, secretly but steadily makes sex with your partner less appealing, less satisfying and frankly makes you feel like it takes too long.
If you want to stop using porn, don’t try doing it alone, that is a recipe for failure. Here are some great organizations and resources dedicated to helping men like you break free of pornography once and for all.
Fight the New Drug exists to provide individuals the opportunity to make an informed decision regarding pornography by raising awareness on its harmful effects using only science, facts, and personal accounts. https://fightthenewdrug.org
No-Fap is a comprehensive community-based porn recovery website. We offer all the tools our users need to connect with a supportive community of individuals determined to quit porn use and free themselves from compulsive sexual behaviors. With our website, forums, articles and apps, NoFap helps our users overcome their sexual addictions so they can heal from porn-induced sexual dysfunctions, improve their relationships, and ultimately live their most fulfilling lives.
One of the great things about X3watch is that it’s about so much more than just blocking questionable sites. That’s actually a very limited way of thinking about it. Instead, our goal is to cause people to rethink the very notion of accountability and realize the tremendous benefits that come from it. Accountability is a great thing!
Accountability helps you make healthy choices. Accountability provides motivation for positive life adjustments. Accountability is encouraging and inspiring.
And that’s what we want X3watch to provide. We want to really give people a tool that will help them grow, because ultimately that is what accountability is all about. We want to remove the negative stigma that is traditionally associated with accountability by reframing it for what it truly is: a positive motivating force. https://x3watch.com
.Pure Desire exists to provide hope and freedom from sexual addiction by educating and equipping church leaders in the development of a healing ministry. Through small group resources for men, women, and teens, on-site or online counseling, training events, and ministry partnerships, Pure Desire is leading the way in the battle for integrity and purity in the church. https://puredesire.org
Real Relationships. Real Change.
Relationships have the ability to overcome pornography’s deep deception. Covenant Eyes supports the power of Internet Accountability so you can break free from the destructive life of pornography. https://www.covenanteyes.com
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