Breaking Free from the Pain of Your Past


How you handle your own heart, predicts how you will treat the hearts of others!  Your heart is core to your beliefs.  It’s where you think your innermost thoughts and hide secrets known only by you.  It’s where you condemn yourself for faults and failures, both real and perceived!

It’s where the pain of your past meets with the present.  The hallways of your heart are cluttered with broken promises to yourself and to others!

“Most men don’t grasp the power of their “painful” past!  The pain grips them with vice-like talons relentlessly clawing and ripping at their hearts, their hope, and their souls until no strength remains and all attempts to soar are abandoned!”

And when you’ve abandoned any hope of having a truly intimate relationship, you’re left sitting among the toxic rubble silently suffering in thoughts of what “could have been!”

Therefore your belief about yourself, your heart, and your hopes are the foundation and the frame on which all relational restoration is constructed.

If you’ve come to believe that you aren’t worth loving, you won’t believe that you are worth restoring.  So, you will settle for just fixing!  This doesn’t address the broken, rotting, and rusting infrastructure!

Teaching you how to nurture true relational intimacy without addressing your heart is like painting over peeling plaster or over a rusted fender!  Sure, if you use enough paint, it will look good short term.  But long term, the broken and rusting infrastructure will bleed through, revealing the flaws and weaknesses.

Only when you begin to restore belief in yourself, will you be able to develop truly healthy and deeply abiding intimacy!

This is why I created Unbreakable Bond – to guide you through the restoration process.  Restoration begins with the belief that what’s there is unique, valuable, and worth restoring.  You are unique, valuable, and worth restoring.  But restoration takes time, so as to carefully preserve what’s unique and valuable, while repairing what isn’t working.  Remember, “What comes easy won’t last.  What lasts won’t come easy.”

I hope today’s blog has encouraged you.  Make sure you sign up to receive blogs posted every Tuesday and Thursday. resources are designed to guide you through the restoration process of developing your heart, mind, and strength, enabling you to become the man God created you to be.

I also provide one-on-one coaching, if you want to improve your relationships, let’s connect through e-mail at ‘’.  My hope for you is that through these blogs, references, and resources, God will transform you from being bruised or broken to an abundantly blessed man.

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